Day 32 Friendship management

Friendship management

Human relation management is becoming a crucial issue in our life. The ability to make new friends and maintain a long-term friendship has been a challenge for many of us. Making a new friend not only keeps up in a good mood, but also reduce a potential rival in the world. People are concerning about they can not meet some ‘real’ friend in the modern society, since everyone seems to be a numerical representation on our Facebook. We seek a true friend who is able to share both their happiness and sorrow. Although this special friend may not necessarily share the same interest, he or she will be the first one to lend us a hand when we are in a pitfall. There are several techniques that can help us to obtain some high-quality friendship.

The verb ‘make’ defines the intrinsic concept of the friendship, in order to “make” friends, we need to provide value to them. Honestly, we cannot become friends with another person if we are not mutually benefited to each other. This value generated to our friends are various factors, for instance, we may share the same interest on a specific activity, we may be a good listener to share their stories, or there are some strengths in our knowledge/skill that they want to learn from us. No one will become companions with someone is considered ‘worthless’ to him/her, because the cost of time will be simply wasted due to there is no expected return. As a consequence, the more gain our friend can acquire from us, the more stable our friendships last. It sounds ruthless and realistic, so people will protest this theory. However, it is indeed, due to the emotional satisfactory for having a friend, is the benefit received as well.

Furthermore, the best way to retain a long-term friendship is to be genuine. In my opinion, the foundation of the friendship is the trust between friends. Which can be interpreted as: we have faith on each other, that both of us will act on behalf of our combined interest. In fact, if we do not treat our friends with sincerity, the return we received will be on the same degree. When our friends figure out our actions always have the initial intention to embrace their well-fare, definitely, they would love to become our best friend.

Nevertheless, being genuine to our friend does not mean we should censure their weakness. Obviously, we are more likely to lose that friend or even become enemies if we do so. What we should behave is to praise our friend instead of criticizing them. Even though sometimes we might share a different perspective, we must affirm our friends’ opinion before we propose diversities. Everybody prefers to be exalted rather than be scolded. A friend can give honest advice in a positive tongue is delightful.

Making a friend is not hard, but it is difficult to meet a helpful friend and maintain that relationship. If we present sufficient value, treating them with true heart, keep regular contact and not being a jerk, we will certainly receive that desired friendship in our life.