Day 56 Self-adjustment after failure

Self-adjustment after failure

Although we prefer to enjoy the nectar of success, failure always associates with it. According to the statistic, the chance for us to achieve and fail our objective is fifty-fifty without the influence of outsider factors. Therefore, the setback is an inevitable fact that all of us must learn to deal with. However, the sense of defeat may crush our confidence in the further participation upon similar tasks. Consequently, we will act negatively or even tend to avoid the reality which we have been defeated. I want to introduce some useful techniques to confront our failure and encourage ourselves to continue pursuing other goals.

In my opinion, the most important part is to adjust our mentality after we failed. We must understand sometimes that failure is unpreventable, because there are so many elements can vary the outcome. For instance, If we are applying a course at the university, our anticipated result should be the offer granted. But there are factors we cannot control such as the number of our peers who also applied for the same course, the working attitude of the officer handling our supplementary material, and even the certain preference or bias towards the specific group. So when our effort was not remunerated with the expected outcome, do not be frustrated. Ask ourselves, did we endeavor to influence every reasonable factor in order to reach the target? If we did, there is noting to be regretted. So what we need to do is to put ourselves together and keep up with the good work. In addition, we shall establish psychological barriers before the result come out. It sounds negative, but it is indeed rational behavior. That is supported by the Murphy’s law, which stated ‘anything that can go wrong will go wrong’. Hence we must prepare to face the least favorite outcome while proceeding towards to the object. Along with this precautionary protection, we will not be devastated by the sudden failure and able to react based upon the situation. Furthermore, I found out that rating the outcome on scale from one to ten can provide enormous psychological comfort. Because we will realize the scenario is not too bad, which indicates our effort was not totally wasted. That will stimulate our passion to maintain diligence and eventually bring us the desired output.

After we successfully adjust our mental status, a conclusion is essentially required. We have to summarize the reason for our failure, and act carefully to avoid it in the future. We must remember that all of our self-adjustment processes are aiming to retain our confidence, but not intend to make us ignore our defeat. On the contrary, we should keep this failure in our mind in order to utilize it as the fuel to motivate our future activities. What done is done, we cannot change the past, but at least we shall make our future brighter with the experience we learned, shamed and regretted.